Love & Lust

What is Love?!

Think about it. Search for an answer within yourself. Think it out. Then tell it to yourself. Are you convinced by your answer? Hmmmmm no? Why Not?
Your answer could be – “when you see a person and at the first sight you want to lead your entire life with him/her” – That’s love.

That is what you have read in good books and seen in Bad movies. You have heard stories about this “LOVE”. So … This must be LOVE! But have you ever experienced Love? Have you ever defined it on your Own?

Well let me try and define what love is not…. Then maybe we can learn what love is. I will do it with the help of a scenario:
“You see a person and you want to be with….. You long to be with him/her. You don’t know what that person really is. You meet him for the first time, he puts his best foot forward, and you are also on your best. He likes you, you like him. Then you start flirting, you talk to each other over the phone, you chat a lot, email each other. Both of you talk some mushy stuff. Then you flirt some more, go out together, go for movies, go out to eat ( by the way you call it a Date !!) and you find each other’s company good. Your friendship grows and then after a lot more flirting and courtship one of you says those three magical words “I love you”. The next moment you end up in each other’s arms as if you will never be separated – you call that love. Right??”

WRONG!, That’s LUST.

You long for each others physical intimacy and you hide it under the mask called LOVE.
Yes! We all do it, we all have changed the definition of love. It’s all Lust hidden under the pure white mask of Love.

And then in the name of love you are expected to behave in a particular manner, do such and such things, behave in a certain way that lovers do….. And then your life is governed by rules. Rules laid down by whom? Rules for Love!

Meanwhile spending so much of time together… slowly and slowly that mask begins to wear off.. you get to know the real person behind that mask… and then in no time you realize that the mask of love has vanished, it has worn out, torn and shattered. Then the quarrels begin and life becomes a living hell for both of you. All the magic is gone all the music has vanished….. Your life has become a living hell….. Till the time one of you is courageous enough to put an end to it, or else it will continue to be hell for both of you and those around you.
And then you cry not because love has vanished but because you have lost something that you thought was magic but was not. Then people blame love. They say love is bad, love is evil, love causes heartache. Love gives pain.

Arre bahi where was love? There was no love … just a misunderstanding, pseudonym that you gave your lust.!

So now the question still remains – “What is love?”. Some one once said –

“Its love, love and love alone,
That caused King Edward to lose his throne.”

Love is an extension of friendship. When friendship crosses its limits it becomes Love, when the well being of your friend is more important to you than your own life… When the only person you ever want to see happy is your partner… that, my friend, is LOVE.

When physical contact, touch, or even seeing your partner becomes immaterial. When you start living your life in his heartbeats and when you start flowing in her veins; that is love.
“When your coming close physically is not the reason to love…., but when love generates so much of desire that YOU, yourself want to be the person you love. When both want to become each other, inseparable. That is LOVE! When being far away from each other ceases to be separation. That is love.

Love is a beautiful feeling, only if identified correctly. Only the blessed and lucky people on this earth are fortunate enough to experience true love.